Re: Marriage

Torture numbers and they'll confess anything
~Gregg Easterbrook

First, the divorce rate is not quite what it seems. Second, there are a lot of things you can do to increase your chances of success. I invite my readers who are married to share their tips for a stable relationship, here are some of the factors I've observed that I think are important for a lasting relationship.

1. Get to know the other person first- Knowing someone less than 6 months before getting married is highly risky in my opinion because you haven't had enough time to get to know the real them. (and vice-versa)
2. Begin with realistic expectations - Movies give us unrealistic ideas about sex and relationships, throw all that in the trash and accept that your spouse is a person and not an actor.
3. Pre-marriage counseling - Pre-marriage counseling may sound silly, but it will help you to identify and resolve issues before they become big problems.
4. Don't have kids right away - Kids add stress and hinder intimacy, get to know each other and become established as a couple first, things will go a lot smoother if and when you decide to take that step.
5. Master your spouse's love languages - Giving and receiving love the right way is important to any relationship.
6. Continue to date your spouse - Winning your spouse's heart is something you must continue to do, set aside time at least once a week to reconnect.

While I believe marriage is work, I also believe marriage can work.

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